The podcast for people who want to be better parents and partners.

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Stop Reacting,
Start Connecting.

Becoming Untriggered shines a new light on everyday parenting and relationship issues.

We trace these challenges back to their root cause—to the behaviour that was remodelled to you in childhood and to the beliefs you inherited as a result. The goal is to empower you to finally let go of the old, dysfunctional patterns that are blocking you from enjoying family life.

Join us fortnightly for practical tools, actionable advice, and conversations that empower you to show up as the conscious parent your kids deserve and as the connected partner you know you want to be.

  • Pocket therapist for couples

    ★★★★★

    Absolutely loving the real and succinct episodes! The content and perspectives from both sides are fantastic. It has helped us (hubby & I) kick start conversations on how we can show up better to ourselves, each other and out daughter. I’m excited to keep following this journey and feel privileged to listen in. Thank you so much.

    - QueenHen

  • SO Relatable

    ★★★★★

    I loved listening to Lavinia and Andrew, they are insightful, refreshingly honest and so relatable. I am looking forward to listening to more episodes.

    - Joblamp

  • Very insightful

    ★★★★★

    These two are a very relatable couple. It's great that they are in the midst of parenting three kids and they literally unpack their situation in a very ad-lib and delightfully conversational manner. Lavinia and Andrew are both refreshingly transparent about their childhood, trauma and parenting. They blend their coaching experience with some humour, humility and honesty and offer practical tools. I loved the first episode and can't wait to hear more. We all need help doing this parenting stuff and, having followed both of them for years, it's wonderful to listen to them together. More please!

    - Kate DR

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Meet Your Hosts:
Lavinia Brown & Andrew Lynn

Lavinia Brown and Andrew Lynn are psychodynamic coaches, a couple of over 16 years, and parents of 3. After nearly 17 years and 3 kids together, they’ve been through their fair share of conflict and growth. They believe that the key to a successful, long-lasting partnership is to see the two as linked—a truth they’ve learned and now hope to share with you.

We were certainly not the same people when we met as we are now: Our past attachment trauma erupted in coercive power play and frequent verbal as well as physical fights, all of it fuelled by our coping mechanism of choice – alcohol. But back then, both of us recognized from our very first (blind) date, how the other one made them feel differently to previous romantic partners—a grounding, a kind of solidity in oneself when together—that made us keep returning to the other, regardless of the countless mini breakups. This is the potential we hope to share with you.

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Heal individually to grow as a couple

As psychodynamic coaches, we believe there are no "relationship issues," only unresolved issues from your past surfacing in the present. We focus on resolving the unprocessed wounds from your past that are creating friction in your current family life.

Choose your path to deeper individual healing below.

For Mamas
Work with Lavinia

Support to heal your inner child and step into conscious, grounded motherhood.

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For Dads
Work with Andrew

Support to navigate criticism, set boundaries, and find your authentic role as a father.

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